I've noticed that many things are more than meets the eye. Like people for example, they may seem like an innocent flower but really what you don't see is the snake lurking beneath it. Today my friend tripped down the stairs and started to cry. I asked her why and she replied about her breakup. It was surprising because she could act like nothing was bothering her before. When i asked her obviously i thought she was crying about the pain from falling, but what i didnt notice was the pain in her heart was much worse. People also tend to hide their innermost feelings. They can smile, laugh, and joke around like nothings wrong. They can lie to the world but nothing can fool themselves. I think these people are the saddest.
Being upset or crying doesnt make you WEAK. Putting on a mask and pretending nothing is wrong doesnt make you STRONG. The people that can see this problem, accept it, and do something about it are the people that are truly strong. Those who fake happiness while crying yourself to sleep & do nothing to try to fix it will eventually just break down. They are the ones that are stuck in a loophole. They will always be depressed because nothing will change. If you want to be happy, create your own path. Follow your heart. Nothing comes easy, true happiness&love isn't created easily. Its a step by step process. There are times where you will stumble but whats important is standing up again, learning from your mistakes, and being even stronger each time. Shit happens to everyone, some people just deal with it better.
So next time you see someone crying, ask them why they are crying. Maybe its not the obvious reason that you can see. Maybe its because of something deeper. You never know; what they say may suprise you.
PS: i wonder if anyone even reads my blog? hahaha its for myself thought!
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i do at times when im bored at work :P like now ! well said.
ReplyDeletesometimes you just can't fix it and you can't do anything about it.
ReplyDeleteyour friend just wants to live a positive life. why would she show everyone that she's sad about her breakup. & it DOES show that you are weak.
maybe she can't do anything about it. you shouldn't call her fake because of that. you are being so absurd.
sometimes the only way to deal with it is just doing nothing.
doing something about a problem every time is not always the way to make things better.
and it's not faking happiness, when i'm upset i can still be happy. it's just how different people deal with things. it's not putting on a mask or whatever either because when people around me make me happy, i am sincerely happy.
just know that everyone deals with things differently in different circumstances, just 'cause thats the way YOU think problems should be dealt with, doesn't mean that it's the right way. i can totally relate, and i can tell you right now i am never fake or putting on a mask. i am happy when i am happy and i am upset when i am upset. it's wrong to just assume and judge people without knowing their situation. you are not them, everyone is different. i know, not everyone is like me, but at least i think most people wouldn't mourn about their breakups or whatever. your friend is not doing the wrong thing. and you're wrong, people who are sad and STAY sad are the saddest because they choose not to let any happiness in their life.
i'm just sayin.
holy shiet. did you just make a blog inside my blog? LMFAOOO anyways. i know there are different situations, im referring to the one my friend was in. and even if some people didnt "fake" the happiness. are they doing anything to change what makes them upset? they can get upset everyday about something but never do anything to change it. and just cause its the way I think it should be dealt with also doesnt make it the WRONG way. because you can relate doesnt make your way any more RIGHT than my way is. Like you said, everyones situations are different and i actually talked to and know my friend. Therefore i know her situation. You say you can relate, but to what? do you even know what's going on? Her situation isnt like yours. She told me herself that she cant pretend to be happy anymore. She thought by doing so she can get over him easier, but in fact it just made her feel worse. and im not saying to go around showing everyone your unhappy, but dont FORCE yourself to be happy. If your happy your happy, if your sad your sad. If something funny happens laugh, if something pisses you off be angry. But her reasons for happiness were wrong, she couldnt accept that it was over between them. Instead she kept giving herself hope. I get what your saying, i also agree with your last part "people who are sad and STAY sad are the saddest because they choose not to let any happiness in their life." but the situation im talking about isn't like that. She's lieing to herself and until she can face the truth, she will continue to be miserable. the bottom line is i believe people who are sad STAY sad only if they choose to. They STAY sad by not doing anything about it. This is my opinion it is not the only way to deal with it. This isnt about a broad area of people, but some specific example. Like you said its wrong to assume and judge without knowing the situation. You don't know how much i know, nor the situation at all. Your the one that doesnt know, yet your stating im being absurd. Think clearly before you judge me. Reflect on that.
ReplyDelete"at least i think most people wouldn't mourn about their breakups or whatever."
ReplyDeletedepends, if its guys its true most wouldnt. But i think girls do ALOT. Especially if they are serious. which is rare.
why are you being so defensive. i'm just giving my own opinion. chill, i won't make an opinion on your blogs anymore if it's going to make you all iffy n shit. lol.
ReplyDeleteim not being defensive, im just debating my argument. dont take it that seriously lol.
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